What is a psychic cord?
Psychic cords are energetic bonds that develop between people. This typically happens when they share a deeply intimate relationship, but also when one partner believes that their wholeness is reliant on the other partner, such as in emotionally abusive relationships.
The beliefs that create cords stem from unsatisfied needs and deeply held emotional patterns. That’s why people who’ve been involved with an emotional abuser, whether during childhood or in romantic relationships (or both) often seem to repeatedly enter relationships with these same types of people.
Cords can be caused by many things…often, it’s because of an emotionally traumatic event or events. Or maybe we’ve allowed someone to disregard our boundaries, or perhaps we have no boundaries with those who are toxic to our mental and emotional well-being.
A psychic cord can create severe problems on emotional, subconscious, spiritual, energetic, and physical levels. These cords are often the main reason for blocked creative energy, repressed self-expression, loss of personal power, unresolved anger, fear or grief, weak interpersonal boundaries, and poor health.
Although symptoms of cords can vary greatly, an individual will typically feel drained from specific relationships when a cord is present. When we want to let someone go because the relationship is unhealthy, the cords and the continuing psychic exchange between us and that person can hold us back. Below are signs that you have toxic psychic cords that need to be severed.
Symptoms of heavy cording include:
- Inability to move on
- Obsessing about an ex
- Ruminating on things they said; reliving their constant judgment or criticism
- Constant memories concerning things you used to do together
- A compulsion to go back to the toxic relationship
- Stalking your ex online through social media
- Insomnia, or endless processing of the past
- Deep feelings of sadness, anger, and depression regarding the past
- Desiring to seek revenge, or constantly aware of unfair treatment
- Crying all the time; an emotional shell
- Turning down invitations from friends and family; stuck in the past
Clearing energetic cords that bind you to an emotional abuser is a must. Not only will doing so sever the psychic ties with the abuser but will also clear the spiritual debris they picked up from sleeping with multiple partners, which they then spread to you when you shared intimate moments with them. This can cause you to experience negative energies in your life.
The Cord Cutting Process
We often have misconceptions about relationships and perceptions about who we believe we are and who we think the other person is. Doing this work will help you overcome this, and begin to form a new outlook. Even if you are not able to feel anything in the beginning, trust that the process is occurring.
You can start by calling upon God, Jesus, your spiritual guides, or your higher self to help you with this process. Visualize yourself holding a crystal sword. Say out loud, “I now cut and release the cords of this relationship with (person’s name)”, and while you are saying this, move your arms as if you were holding a sword and cut all around your body, remembering to cut above you and send intent.
Visualize the sword going below you to cut the roots of the relationship. You might also visualize pulling up the roots and plucking them out of your energy field while continuing to cut with the sword. Visualize the energetic cords vanishing as you cut and pull them from you.
You may find as you do this, that some bundles may be more concentrated in the navel or heart area. Intimate relationships are typically more concentrated in the lower chakras. (**This process can also be used to cut the psychic cords with narcissistic parents, alive or otherwise).
Continue to say the name of the person from whom you are cutting cords. When you feel you are done with that person and the relationship, pause and let yourself get a sense of whether or not the cord-cutting was successful. It is best to only do one relationship in a single psychic cord-cutting ceremony. Start with the one that occupies your mind and heart the most.
When you feel the process is complete, pause and breathe for a few moments. Visualize a lavender light encircling you as you bask in your new, clean energy field. Allow your heart to expand and feel the connection to your Higher Self. In doing this ceremony you have created a space. By calling in the Divine and your higher Self, you bring in what you need to go forth and form the relationships you desire.
Next, simply relax and rest. You might even want to take a nap. You may feel hungry, drained, or simply peaceful. Even while you rest, the energy streams are dispersed as they go back to the time, person, and relationship.
You’ll want to also clear out the area where you performed the ritual through saging or diffusing essential oils, such as Release by Young Living. It’s wonderful for psychic cord cutting and a great emotional support for this type of work.
Psychic cord-cutting is not generally recommended more than once a week. You need time to assimilate the work you have done and allow yourself time to develop new perspectives.
Cord-Cutting Can Help You to Emotionally and Spiritually Release Someone
When you complete your cord-cutting ritual, take a moment to reflect on how it makes you feel. The transition process is often not instantaneous. Writing in a journal can aid in facilitating the transformation you are undergoing. The Yaqui Indians use a cord-cutting ceremony to help them deal with their grief following the passing of a loved one.
Similarly, when cutting ties with an ex or anyone who has caused you great emotional stress and trauma, the process can be used to heal the pain associated with the relationship and move on with your life. Doing this can help make future relationships more stable and balanced, and grant you the peace of mind that comes with learning from past experiences.
Through cord-cutting, you can take the negative feelings from the relationship or breakup and transform them into growth and strength, allowing you to become happier and healthier in your quest for a balanced healing approach.
How to Avoid Feelings of Guilt During or After the Cord-Cutting Process
The cord-cutting process, whether it involves ending a relationship or cutting ties with a person, can be emotionally challenging and may sometimes lead to feelings of guilt. It’s important to remember that everyone’s situation is unique, and these suggestions can help you navigate the process while minimizing guilt:
Reflect on your decision: Before initiating the cord-cutting process, take the time to reflect on your reasons for doing so. Consider your emotional well-being, personal growth, and the overall healthiness of the relationship. Understanding your motivations can provide clarity and alleviate guilt.
Set healthy boundaries: During and after the cord-cutting process, establish clear boundaries for yourself. Boundaries help protect your emotional well-being and prevent feelings of guilt from seeping in. It’s essential to prioritize your needs and maintain those boundaries firmly.
Practice self-compassion: Recognize that it’s normal to experience guilt when making difficult decisions that might potentially impact others. Be kind and gentle with yourself throughout the process. Acknowledge your emotions, allow yourself to feel them, and remind yourself that you deserve happiness and fulfillment.
Focus on personal growth: Shifting your focus towards personal growth and self-improvement can help alleviate guilt. Engage in activities that promote self-care, self-discovery, and personal development. Redirecting your energy towards positive endeavors can give you a sense of purpose and empowerment.
Accept your decision: Once you’ve made the decision to cut cords, it’s important to accept it and let go of any lingering guilt. Remind yourself that you made the best decision for yourself, and trust that time will bring healing and understanding.
Imagine the Use of “Angel Honey”
The general idea of using a substance or ritual can further alleviate guilt and discomfort when cutting psychic cords,
Remember, feelings of guilt are natural, but they shouldn’t overshadow your well-being and personal growth. By following these suggestions and being kind to yourself, you can navigate the cord-cutting process with greater ease and clarity.
How To Get Started On Healing Your Life After Emotional Abuse
Narcissists and other abusers don’t have the ability to connect with you on a truly intimate level (even though it often feels like this in the beginning). Instead, over time it will feel as if your spirit is slowly getting sick. This is how relationships with such individuals can cause spiritual injuries.
If you are being (or have been) emotionally or narcissistically abused, it probably has begun to feel like you are dealing with a stranger. All the connection you felt with them has vanished into thin air, and suddenly the person who used to feel like home to you has become some unknown entity who exudes boredom and irritation with you.
If you know you need to purge the horrific addiction and devastating emotional and spiritual contamination from an emotional abuser, then consider The Break Free Program. Healing is a process that can open up some truly transformative revelations and opportunities when we give ourselves the chance to recover and thrive.
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