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How to Leave a Narcissist When You’re Still in Love

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Wondering how to leave a narcissist?  

Maybe you tried, once again, to bring up something the narcissist did that hurt you, disrespected you, or made you feel worthless.

As usual, the fight ended with you apologizing and asking for their forgiveness.

Now, you’re daydreaming about packing your car and using your next paycheck to run away and start a new life somewhere.

But, you can’t leave – you love them.

Plus, that would mean admitting your relationship has failed. And if you share children, it might not even seem worth the hassle.

But another life is possible.

You don’t have to put up with narcissistic abuse – you deserve much better.

You just need to understand not only how to leave a narcissist, but how to get over a narcissist. See, narcissists have a crafty way of manipulating your very sense of self which keeps you hanging on – but you can break free, even if the thought of leaving seems scary.

Cracking the Code of How to Leave a Narcissist

Deep down, you know that you’re in an abusive situation. You know that your relationship isn’t healthy.

But what if this is just as good as it gets?

The narcissist has likely spent months or years leading you to believe that you’re worthless and no one else could ever want you or appreciate you. The narcissist may have even manipulated you into believing that you’re in an honorable and coveted position because they’re in your life – and you should feel lucky for the opportunity.

If you really want to figure out how to leave a narcissist – and how to get over a narcissist – you need to understand two key points.

Realize That You’re Probably Confusing Longing for Love

Narcissists create a sense of false love and toxic attachment through a process known as trauma bonding.

In healthy relationships, this can be a positive experience: you and a friend grow closer after you experience a traumatic event together. With narcissists, however, it’s much more sinister.

Narcissists will manufacture traumatic situations (like those long-weekend fights) to bring the two of you closer together (at least, in your mind). There’s a good chance you’ve told the narcissist deeply personal things you’ve never told anyone else – that’s exactly what they want. Not only does it pull you closer together in the worst way, but the narcissist can use these personal secrets against you later.

As this cycle continues, you probably find yourself longing for the fleeting moment the narcissist offers you a glimmer of hope: a hug, an “I really do love you,” a low-key romantic movie night.

Those brief moments of affection and serenity are what keep you hanging on.  The problem is that we misinterpret this longing for love.

Longing for the narcissist to appreciate your talents, offer gratitude, or even basic respect.

Longing is a powerful emotion that seems to emanate directly from the heart and reach out for something that it can’t connect with, and each time that it cannot connect with what it is searching for, the pain becomes more intense.  

The truth is, when the narcissist does finally reciprocate short-lived appreciation, it’s completely contrived.  It’s important to note that the narcissist isn’t feeling the same warm fuzzies that you are.

To the narcissist, emotions are simply trappings to manipulate you and exploit your vulnerabilities.

Understanding How to Leave a Narcissist and Rebuild Your Identity

If you’re ready to understand both how to leave a narcissist and how to get over a narcissist, you’ll want to consider that narcissistic abuse completely warps your sense of identity.

The narcissist took every opportunity to shoot down your dreams, discredit your opinions, and leave you questioning everything you thought you knew about yourself.

That’s all part of the narcissist’s game to weave themselves into your identity – they are like a celestial black hole and once you get sucked in, you disappear without a trace.  Because of this one-sided expenditure of energy and love, the narcissist becomes your sense of self.

Instead of worrying about your next career move, what’s best for your family, or how you should spend your day off, your only worry is the narcissist and nothing else. Every thought you have is about their thoughts and feelings – never your own.

  • Do you worry that the narcissist will get mad that you left the house without telling them first?
  • Do you find yourself thinking “what would X say” when you’re presented with a decision or question before creating your own opinion?

If this sounds familiar, it means you’ve lost your own sense of self to build up the narcissist’s false self.

How to Leave a Narcissist for Good

Figuring out how to get over a narcissist is tough, but first, you need to figure out how to leave a narcissist the right way.

Thoroughly Plan Your Exit and Prepare for a Narcissist Offensive Operation

The narcissist can and will use every channel at their disposal to contact you with fake apologies and promises – or even violence, anger, and stalking.

If you live with the narcissist, figure out where you’ll stay as you get back on your feet. Look for a lawyer if you’ll have to deal with custody of children or division of assets. This stuff isn’t fun, but it will help you make a clean break.

The best thing you can do as you figure out how to leave a narcissist is to thoroughly plan your exit.

Don’t Crack – No Matter What

Block the narcissist’s phone number so you can’t receive their texts. Be prepared: they might use spoofing apps or other services to mimic a different number.

Let mutual friends know that you don’t want any messages relayed from your ex-partner. If you don’t feel like explaining, then say so.

No one is entitled to your business: good friends will understand and respect your wishes. (It might be hard to believe after living with a narcissist for so long, but your friends will understand and respect you.)

How to Leave a Narcissist and Rebuild Your Identity

You’re ready to leave – at least physically.

You know the situation needs to change, but how long will you last before the narcissist pulls you back in with their fake apologies and sob stories about how they’ve realized their wrong-doings?  How they had ‘The Divine Epiphany’?

When it seems the narcissist is truly remorseful, it is all a charade.  Daniel N. Jones of the University of Texas at El Paso proposed theory in 2014 to explain predatory behaviors in human societies.  His theory suggests that individuals involved in predatory behavior need to appear to be cooperative and “normal” to successfully take advantage of others. People are naturally wary of individuals who do not express fear or remorse, deeming them untrustworthy.

According to Angela Book of Brock University in Canada and a team of researchers, “For psychopathic individuals to successfully navigate the social world, they “need to feign moral emotions in order to appear trustworthy and encourage others to cooperate with them.”

“By feigning remorse, individuals who lack these emotions may profit from appearing to be trustworthy while retaining the ability to pursue their own interests (without being hampered by any real emotions or concerns.)”

Here’s how to get over a narcissist and start rebuilding your true sense of self.

Accept the Reality of the Situation

Looking at things objectively is the first step as you figure out how to leave a narcissist. Start a logbook to jot down past fights and incidents of narcissistic manipulation or abuse.

How did the fights start and end? When did your partner provide love or understanding? How many times have you had the same fights and how many times has the narcissist promised to change but fell short?

This will allow you to see patterns of manipulation and failure to follow through with promises on the narcissist’s part. You’ll also realize that the short-lived instances of love and affection were all a big show.

Truly Accept that the Narcissist Won’t Change and You’ll Never Have Closure

Look at your logbook: the same cycle is repeating itself over and over.

Once you leave, the narcissist will try to contact you – possibly months down the road – insisting they’ve changed. They haven’t.

You might get FOMO wondering about the things that could have been, but remember this reality: if they were going to change, they would have done so already.

If you really want to understand how to leave a narcissist, you need to understand that you’ll never have closure. Your closure will be rebuilding your spirit and recovering from narcissistic abuse.

Do Something You Enjoy

Invest time in yourself. Look at how the narcissist has held you back and stunted your growth – whether professionally, mentally, spiritually, or emotionally.

Sign up for a class at a local college or community center. You may find you have no idea what you enjoy doing because the narcissist has drained your self-perception for so long.

It’s okay.

Just spend some time reading, relaxing, and focusing on day-to-day activities.

Talk to Someone

Friends and loved ones make excellent support systems, but joining a like-minded healing community can make a huge difference.

Consider yourself in recovery: you need people who have gone through the same situation to provide mentoring and support so you don’t relapse and return to the narcissist.

How to Get Over a Narcissist: Take Things One Day (or Minute) at a Time

The saying in most 12-step recovery programs is that you need to take things “one day at a time.” The truth is, sometimes drug or alcohol cravings (or persistent texts from a narcissist) can crop up on a minute-to-minute basis.

The point is that you need to focus on your moment-to-moment feelings and material situation while focusing on the long-term goal of getting over the narcissist.

If you think in terms of “I can’t do this for years,” it won’t work.

Live in the “now.”

A Better Life Is Possible

It’s not easy – figuring out how to leave a narcissist whom you love is probably the hardest thing you’ll ever do in your life.

Narcissists are our husbands and wives, mothers and fathers, co-workers and friends. Narcissistic partners are particularly damaging because they weave themselves into the very fabric of our identity: they suck us dry and turn us into a shriveled ghost of a person.

But you can rid your life of narcissistic abuse for good.

Just like the black hole, if you take away the energy that is being provided to feed the narcissist, then there is no longer anything for them to feed on and the toxic dynamic begins melting away so you can finally break free.

You’ll rebuild your identity and become stronger than ever before. The trick is to understand how to leave a narcissist and recover.

If you’re ready to start planning your healed life, then explore The Essential Break Free Bootcamp for narcissistic abuse recovery that’s practical, proven, and reliable. Basically, your new best friend.

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Paola M says October 30, 2023

I can’t believe I came across this article tonight. I’m in tears because I thought I was crazy ! I have never felt like anyone wound understand what I was going through. I have been in a relationship for 12 yrs with a Narc and I finally left him yesterday. .I feel for once I’m not alone , thank you so much for this . I’m excited to be honest I want to be myself again !! I relate to this it’s like reading my own story , so empowering

Laura says October 14, 2023

Leaving a narcissist when you’re still emotionally attached is beyond hard. The addiction to these people is real, but not for the reasons most think. Narcissists are a hollow shell – and our love pours into that space. We are drunk and drugged on our own love reflected back at us.

Elizabeth Zubiate says November 12, 2022

I left my partner 4 months ago after a 7 yrs it’s been the hardest thing I’ve done left still loving her but choose to love myself more each day it gets easy until they contact you for nothing important then it starts over but haven’t fallen to go back

Rhonda says October 25, 2022

Girl I am in the same boat
I just left my husband too. I feel so free. But still broken and hurt.

imanidiot says October 25, 2022

I divorced my beautiful wife of 36yrs in Dec’20 for a narcissist but I couldn’t see it in the “she-devil”! I’m one month departed from her but so still in love with her. However, I have to move on bc her juju is really really bad! I found this article by typing this into a search; “how do i get past the narcissistic girlfriend that I’m still in love with?” There’s some decent advice by a few others on here. The world is not going to stop for us. WE must press on, stay on point, GET and STAY optimistic people. “There’s a child going to bed at night without a meal! “- were all adults in here, we will be fine…. THANK YOU Kim for this outlet! Peace and love to all. Onad

Jhunie Grace Lagman says October 16, 2022

Thank you for this article, it helps me a lot. Still recovering from the abuse, left the narc but he made sure id suffer by filing legal charges one after another…. I wish this would end because I really cant take seeing him any longer.. he already had a new girl and a baby but still he wont stop pestering me…. this is the thing i wonder most…. not just concentrate on the new supply? why must he still give me nightmare

KM says June 25, 2022

This article is EXCELLENT and for those suffering, print it out, highlight the points that are most important for your personal recovery and read in over and over again.

Rennell S. says June 21, 2022

I have just read this article, my next move is to follow it. So step by step starting today (6-21-22) im planning my exit. It will take me some time to pack and get out without him knowing but I now know I have to do it in order to live my life again. So here I go , wish me luck! I will keep you posted! Thank you so much for writing this article. It really reinforced everything I already knew.

La says April 19, 2022

I just found a note on my iPhone, written 2 years ago, only a few months into my relationship (and when I was dizzy with hope and certain I could be ‘the one’) and it’s blown my mind. I was smart and perceptive and ? correct in my view of the man/situation back then – but I thought true love could save him. I was wrong and now I need saving. This article spoke to me. Thank you x

Kathy M Fiorillo says February 10, 2022

I did leave a narcissist that I was with for 17 years took me 10 times before I actually left for good but you never get rid of the feelings you have for them how does that go away when you hear a song go places everywhere I go you see them that’s the problem I’m having now I know in time that should all go away I hope thank you for your great information ❤️ Kathy

Madeline Heaney says November 29, 2021

I left my husband after 29 years when I met him he was a high functioning alcoholic. We met at singles club. I had no knowledge of alcoholism but I soon learn’t a lot over a 2 year period. I fell pregnant 4 months into the relationship and it started from there he told me he had a vasectomy. I didn’t know if that was a lie or not but I was pregnant and in my mind I had to stay with the farther of my child. Over the next 2 years of his alcoholism. I was on my knees with my baby son and my daughter from a previous marriage. He went into treatment. He bought a puppy before he went. He was thrown out of 2 treatment centres for breaking the rules. The 3rd he managed to behave and got some sobriety. I got a 12 step programme too. We both heard the hardest place to do the 12 step program was in the home. This gave him an excuse for his behaviour and he was always sorry. I made excuses that I had to keep a roof over my children’s head and food on the table. His lies continued, porn regular, and extra marital relationships. He retired 3 years ago and left me to pack up our house ready to rent out as we still had a mortgage. He went to Cyprus. By now my children had grown up and left the nest. They have had no contact with my husband. We had been together for 29 yrs and married 18 yrs. a month after we married he started a relationship with a 23 yr old victim, she doesn’t know it yet but she is. I went to Cyprus to live with him, as I couldn’t afford the mortgage on my salary. I had know choice. The isolation was a master stroke. I would visit Uk, girlfriend would visit. When visited Uk he would stay at hers. He shouted and screamed at me through out our relationship, he could change on a sixpence. He has been physical slaps punches even smashed a plate over my head. My narcissist abuse has paralysed me. Until earlier this year I got on a plane and left after he had pulled a knife on me earlier this year and the last fight he tried to take out my eye…
NO MORE. I recognise the bonding was the Acoholic abuse days. He hasn’t had a drink for 25 years.
Yes I missed the narcissist crumbs of affection.
The occasional normal contact
But I now know that won’t last.
No matter how much I wanted it too. No More wasting time hoping for change…

Nurse says August 26, 2021

Wow I’m so shocked I can relate with everything you say, I realise late that I’m married to a narcissist but I’m intended to leave cause I’m realy very hurting I’m being drained and exhausted
I started by cutting communication and never allow myself to be bullied and he is now spreading lies about me involving the kids in matters that doesn’t involve them, we living in sepe rate places now I’m planning to take the device process and a new place to stay I’m tired and have wasted my life and my time thanks so much I can relate that you have experience you writing about something you know thanks for empowerment since I M reading your material

Terriw says August 1, 2021

I have been married to a narcissist for Forty years. I had him arrested for grabbing me by my throat, and kept slamming my head against a refrigerator. He was drunk and while this was happening to me, I hadn’t seen the look on his face while he was hurting. He looked like satan! Scared me to death, I got free from him and ran out of the house in just my pjs on at ten o’clock at night. I had him arrested the following day. He hounded me every day! He was given a “no contact order” which he kept violating. Final straw was, he drove by my house and used the remote to my garage door to open the screen. I called the police and they rearrested him again. He now has to sit in jail no bond, until the case for assualt and battery on a person over 65. Comes up for case review on August 30th. Scared is minor feeling, I’m scared to death. One good thing about him being locked up is, he detoxes from the booze and no cig goes either.

Janet Hawksworth-Breen says July 14, 2021

How to leave a narcissist when you love them is beautifully written and 100% true having just left my husband I can relate very well. I have set myself free for the rest of my life!!!

Haley says April 2, 2021

Hi Kim,

Just wanted to thank you for all of the free resources that you provide. I am currently divorcing my physically abusive and narcisstic abusive husband of 5 years. I have two children, they will be 3 & 2 in July. I found out last year my husband also had a sex addiction he was hiding from me out whole marriage.

Your resources and emails for the healing roadmap have been very helpful as I walk this out.

I appreciate that with what you’ve gone through yourself you chose to help others recover & find themselves again after having our identities carried away in the river of abuse.

Just want you to know that what you’re doing has made a huge difference in my life & I appreciate the heart you have for helping others.

All the best.

Anonymous says March 21, 2021

Wow. So great article.

Jaimie stone says February 10, 2021

Kim im going to sign up for everything you offer and I appreciate all the help you offer. I finally left the narcissist I was with for almost 11yrs. Im having a hard time getting past the fact that he never loved me and the loss of my home,my belongings,my animals. He kept most of my stuff, clothes,t.v,bed, and a whole lot more and im homeless now but im not being cussed at or hit on or belittled or cheated on anymore. I caught my ex with little girl prostitutes all the time ,this man is 49 and the little girls I have caught him with are 23 and 24 years old. Mark was in prison for 10 years do you think thats what turned him into a narcissist? He even say’s hes God and say’s he needs to change his name to God. How can I still love such a stupid narrow minded idiot like that? I just dont get it. Thank you Kim

Pamela says December 14, 2020

Thank goodness I have already left and am feeling the feedom. Been married to 3 Narcicissts, but have now worked out where it all began. Suffering the pain of knowing what damage was caused to my children by my mistakes that were never intentional. Probably would have died soon as I was suffering the health affects of the abuse. Cant wait to be free of it all, especially the pain.

Robert G Ingram sr says November 22, 2020

Thank you for your inspiration. I have a 10 yr old granddaughter that I worry about. She’s tied tight to nanna, short story ,I keep the balance for her

Tina Nordyke says November 11, 2020

I left my narcissist relationship seven months ago ..I’m struggling on moving on got physically at the end .so I left .there is RTO ..I just want to forget everything …all the abusive toxic behavior
He as well is a alcoholic.

Paula says September 11, 2020

I would like some more information on letting go I am having a very hard time with accepting it was all a lie 14 years I want to move on and feel stuck it’s driving me crazy he had never hooverd and I feel like I wasn’t even good enough for that I just want to let go I don’t trust anyone I am so scared I won’t ever be happy again

    Kim Saeed says September 13, 2020

    Hi Paula, this is exactly the kind of thing that’s covered in my recovery program. It also includes practical steps for breaking free. You can find more information here:

    Wishing you the best. It’s certainly not easy, but the program would help.

    Kim Xo

    Kimberly says October 10, 2020

    Paula, the last sentence of your message brought me to tears. I can absolutely empathize with you. I have the same words replaying in my head all the time…”I just want to be okay again.” I wish you all the best.

Cindy Mayer says September 10, 2020

I tell you how. I did it and the ONLY thing that got me through was to watch YOUR you tube videos every time I craved, doubted and felt the tear in my heart. If it was in the middle of the night or during the day, when it got unbearable the thought of never seeing, touching or hearing or being hijacked by my narc again, I was able to find clarity and strength listening to you systematically listing the evil of narcissists. You also described him precisely and I realized exactly what I blocked and left, evil and nothing, not one single positive attribute was real. It was all control and manipulation if I thought it was some 1% of goodness underlying. Thank you. I suggest that every one who is trauma bonded who has any temptation to call in a dark hour to watch your videos and listen to your voice, read you articles for distraction. It saved my life. Literally. His last girlfriend went through this cycle of no contact and the trauma bond in the first month with his stalking . She could not cope, Without a previous history, she was found dead mysteriously in bed due to an overdose. She was very petite like me and a dose to try to comfort the feeling of not being able to stand being in her own skin affected her more than she had planned. No note. She had a physically impaired young child she never intended to leave. I may have been next. He is a sadistic, malignant, cerebral narc-path who also destroyed his first wife’s life, mind games and mental abuse of his children. I am just grateful I don’t have children with him and I’ve been free due to Kim for 20 months.

Linda C. Mitchell says September 9, 2020

I have broken away finally for 4months after 20 years and many many break ups and seem to be doing very well but there are days I hate him with a passion that of course puts me in bad mood for the day but it always becomes a personal hate for myself that I put up for it so long, I knew and kept track of many things but could not connect the dots. He is an alcoholic also so I just thought it was all that. I know I am not a stupid person but now I know I am very co dependent. It is hard to get through those days but I guess I am starting to do better with it.
Thanks for listening and all your messages. I look forward to them daily.

Catherine Tsitlakidis says September 9, 2020

This is spot in and soooo true about how the narc infiltrates your daily existence ty

Prashant says August 7, 2020

She is partner in my business I have fear that my hard worked business should not Hamper she comes in my mind

Kelly thomas says June 21, 2020

Thank you. I’ve been with my husband for ten years and ten years of abuse, mental and physical. I walked out 26 days ago with a laundry basket is all and I’m staying strong so far, thanks to reading about this daily. Thank you so much….

Sneha says May 4, 2020

As a person who has recently found about narcissistic abuse. Your beginner’s healing road map is really helping me. This article was suggested in it today. I really needed this to progress. Thank you so much for your kind and encouraging words everyday..

Sneha says May 4, 2020

As a person who has recently found about narcissistic abuse. Your beginner’s healing roadmap is helping me a lot. And this article was suggested in it today. I really needed this for progress. Thank you so much for your kind and encouraging words everyday….

    Kim Saeed says May 5, 2020

    You are so welcome, Sneha. It’s truly my pleasure and honor. Wishing you all the best as you heal.

    Kim XoXo

Shire says April 7, 2020

Hi Kim and thank your for your priceless advice. However i wojls like you to explain to me ..why the narc doesnt want Block me after i went NO CONTACT FOR 2 MONTHS AND BLOCKED HER ON MY WHATSAPP? IT REALLY BUFFLES ME

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Debby says February 12, 2020 are the best.thank you for all your positive words and encouragement.i know I can break free one building up to it and with you beside me I know I so messed up but am getting stronger through your words.thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Carol Smith says February 8, 2020

I stayed over 42 years then finally left because I feared I was going crazy. But I already had; I was later diagnosed with CPTSD. Unfortunately I still have it though not quite as bad. But I acquired many illnesses during that time and still am from cancer to diseases that cause chronic pain and disallow a normal life, now COPD.. I’ve accomplished much in my life to the end that he was jealous of me as he berated me for having done so. Now I’m 75 unable to continue accomplishments. Learn from me.

Vanessa says August 31, 2019

I am just feeling all this pain like it is my fault never done nothing right

Tiffany Nicholas says July 21, 2019

My friends husband is a narcissist so I signed her up for this she thinks that life is good but we all see different help her see it

Margaret says May 16, 2019

This what I needed to read today!
It gives me confidence to take my next step.

Brenda Barton says May 7, 2019

As always I got alot out of your posts. If it weren’t for you and Kim seeds no contact boot camp I cringe when I think about where I would be n how miserable my life would still be. It’s been a year since I left him and with jesuses help when feeling week and your posts I would have not been able to understand exactly who I was dealing with.

Job Less says April 19, 2019

So is there an in- between? I saw the term “overt” narcissist (stalker type), but what about the quiet one that constantly just diminishes you, is unresponsive to your concerns, and rarely keeps commitments? He’s Britt abusive enough that I’ll get full custody of the kids, but is bad enough I don’t want the kids to have to be trapped as his subjects on custody dates. …So I stay. Gah!

    Kim Saeed says May 7, 2019

    The quiet ones are just as bad, often much worse.

    My general outlook is that it’s always best to leave when children are involved. When we stay in abusive relationships, we model to our children that it’s okay to stay in toxic marriages and they won’t learn how to empower themselves – which they will need to learn because children who grow up in toxic environments often end up in the same kind of relationship when they get older and the situation just perpetuates throughout generations.

    At least if you leave, they will see their mom setting a powerful example and you can be their role model of how to take up for oneself.


      Brígida says June 6, 2020

      Dear Kim
      I am reading your messages and i did not sign up for your program as i am so busy taking care of my son. I put my husband out of my house/Life 18 months ago and i am so happy now. For 3 years i prepared my way out by understanding his behaviour. Now i am concerned about my 10 years old son who i believe has built a wall between him and the world because of all awful things he ears from his father. This is my only regret: i should have left long ago as i am not in love with him for years.. as soon as i have some free time i will probably sign for your program as there are things i want to resolve eith myself like guilt. But i am happy, have my job and enjoy all the things i want and love. Thank you for all your kind words

    Diana says May 7, 2019

    I wholeheartedly agree with Kim and am the living example of a daughter of a quiet narcissistic cold father and a warm, giving, codependent mother who stayed, tried to divorce my father at one point, and got sucked back into the marriage. My adult life has been riddled with abusive men beginning in college with an abusive boyfriend impregnated me and also indirectly broke my back speeding after an argument and he drove over an embankment to avoid a head-on collision, fracturing my spine. Married an indifferent man who could never break the bond with him mother and was contemptuous of women. Post-divorce dated a (literally) criminal abuser who nearly murdered me and murdered his final victims. It starts with the family of origin, even if there is no violence, there is often CEN — Childhood Emotional Neglect and emotional abuse of the children and codependent parent (who contributes to the problem when she/he remains with the narcissistic spouse and does not protect herself or her children).

    GET OUT.

      Diana says May 7, 2019

      Sorry for the grammar and spelling errors. Did not proof my message.

        Geraldine says May 9, 2019

        Goodness! I hope you are finding peace now though. After all, we have survived and they are still who they are which must suck. Getting strong and well is the best revenge I’m finding

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Ruth Esparza says October 14, 2018

I didn’t know I was in a Narcissists relationship until I got tried of my live in boyfriend cheating on me and lying all the time. He would make me feel unloved ugly not sexy any more. I gave him everything he wanted love attention made him feel that all he does is great. I went in his phone one night and seen nothing but naked women pictures emails text and sites of different women I kicked him out of the house. I started to look up information about issues with the way he is I knew that something is wrong with a person that needs all these girls in his life. That’s when I learned about Narcissists and he fits all the signs. I’m 40 years old never been in a relationship I never found the right man. This guy my ex became all I ever wanted in a man 1 year in our relationship I noticed he was a fake but I fell in love 2 1/2 years I couldn’t take the lies I was also getting sick a lot lost my job I’m so depressed I cant move on its been 4 weeks I cant move on I have no job I’m losing it all. I miss him so much I need help in moving on.

Kyle says September 6, 2018

I divorced the Narc 13 months ago. Still regaining my self esteem. I recently watched Westworld on HBO , my 19 yo son was also watching. Good show. When you get through session 2 you may see yourself and your Narc. I saw my ex clearly as did his son. Seeing this show had helped me feel better. It affirms that though I may not be perfect. A good man, husband would divorce you rather than making you feel unsure of yourself for years. Check out Westworld on HBO.

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