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6 Essential Oils for Heartbreak: How Aromatherapy Promotes Healing

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Healing from trauma can be extremely difficult. Whether the trauma you experience is physical, mental, or emotional – working through the “negative” emotions you experience can take a lot of time, persistence, and patience.

The emotions you’re feeling are considered negative because they don’t feel good. They don’t feel as fulfilling, light, or enjoyable as positive emotions like joy and excitement.

Instead, so-called negative emotions feel heavy and working through them can feel like walking through quicksand.

Thankfully, there are aides to help make the healing process easier, like essential oils for heartbreak.

How does aromatherapy work? And why is it considered useful in affairs of the heart?

Essential Oils for Heartbreak – Helping You to Mend Your Heart

It’s not enough to know that oils can help – you need to know which oils to use to see the best results. Here are just six essential oils for heartbreak that will give you the emotional strength to start healing.

1. Learn Acceptance with Chamomile

Chamomile is not only soothing, it’s an anti-depressant. The calming effect that it can have can help you reach a point of acceptance. This is one of the first steps you’ll need to take before your heart can fully recover from what it’s been through. You can inhale it directly or add it to a diffuser.

2. Release “Negative” Emotions with Eucalyptus

In order to release negativity, you need an oil that is refreshing. Eucalyptus has an expansive energy that provides you with the energy needed to let go. Simply add a couple of drops to a bowl of hot water and inhale for about five minutes. During this time, give yourself permission to let go of pent-up stress, anger, and hurt with every exhale.

3. Heal from Grief and/or Sadness with Jasmine

Studies have found that jasmine promotes a feeling of alertness and optimism while combating depression. It can stimulate the brain to overcome depressive thoughts. This can be especially helpful when you’re going through grief and having a hard time overcoming your sadness.

4. Experience Forgiveness with Rose Oil

Rose is often associated with love, which is a key component to forgiveness. In circumstances of heartbreak, you need to find forgiveness – both for yourself and the other person. Forgiveness doesn’t condone wrong actions, it simply lets you heal and move on with your life.

This oil will give you the inner sense that you can love enough to forgive and trust enough to give romance another try down the road.

5. Bergamot Promotes Self-Love

Bergamot contains two elements that help to balance hormones and reduce symptoms of depression. It has been shown to be emotionally uplifting and physically relaxing, assisting people who suffer from anxiety.

When you’re dealing with heartbreak, it can be really easy to beat yourself up. In many cases, you’re wondering what you did wrong that resulted in the heartbreak, even if it wasn’t your fault. The feelings that bergamot promotes will help you restore some of the love and respect for yourself that you may have lost.

6. Nurture Your Inner Child with Lemon Balm

Lemon balm is light and fresh. It’s the perfect oil to use during meditation work, especially that which corresponds to nurturing your inner child. Whether your inner child needs extra love, attention, or some fun – this oil can help meet those needs.

Aromatherapy Is Just One Step You Can Take Toward Healing and Self-Care

On its own, aromatherapy can give you the emotional boost you need to release thoughts, emotions, and energy.

However, these oils can be even more powerful if utilized in conjunction with other self-care practices.

Sometimes, when you’re feeling low, the only thing you feel like doing is vegetating in front of the television. This is one reason why binge watching has become so popular – it’s a great form of escape.

But to truly heal, it’s essential to work through your emotions, not simply try to escape from them.

To that end, you can use your essential oils for heartbreak along with the following self-care practices.

  • Take a nice long, warm bath – Negativity can do a number on your body, causing lymphatic stagnation and sore muscles. Occasionally, it’s a good idea to take a detox bath. You can find a variety of ingredients to add, including baking soda, apple cider vinegar, and Epsom salts. Make sure you hydrate while taking your bath. And don’t forget to add essential oils for emotional healing.
  • Get a massage – Massage is a great tool for emotional healing. Some people have even found that halfway into the massage they start crying, releasing emotions that have been pent up for a long time. It’s a very healing experience. Talk to your massage therapist about the type of essential oils that they add to their massage oil. Ask them if it’s possible to use one of the healing oils above.

This is just a start. What other self-care practices have you tried before that might be a good idea to start implementing into your routine again?

For the Best Results, Always Listen to Your Body

The whole purpose of self-care – like using aromatherapy for heartbreak – is to listen to your body and find tools to help you provide what it really needs.

It’s important to note, then, that essential oils don’t affect every person in exactly the same way. You may find that an oil that’s said to promote energy and happiness actually makes you feel really agitated. Or, you may have certain physical sensitivities or allergies to some oils.

That’s ok. It doesn’t mean that all hope is lost. It simply means you need to find another oil that has similar healing properties. And there are numerous resources online that can help you find out which oil has the emotional healing capabilities that you want.

The most important thing to remember is that everyone needs a regular self-care practice. Dealing with heartbreak is difficult for everyone, but with self-care, you’ll start to release feelings that aren’t serving you and begin the path toward health and happiness.


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Shirley Akpelu says February 13, 2018

I love using lavender, lemon, frankincense, myrrh and cypress, among other essential oils. Rose geranium is a favorite. It helps brighten and lift my mood. Thank you for this advice. Meditation is powerful when essential oils are also used.

    Kim Saeed says February 15, 2018

    Hi Shirley! I love all of those oils, too 🙂 I’ve been using one called White Angelica lately, and it’s been super-good, especially, as you said, during meditation.


    Kim XoXo

Sara says February 13, 2018

Great article. Are use essential oils for a while now but always wondered if different ones had different power and Specific ways of affecting us

    Kim Saeed says April 5, 2018

    They do, Sara. I have a large inventory of oils that I use for different purposes. I can never go back to a life without oils 🙂

    Kim XoXo

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