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Akeru – The Sanctity of Give and Take

~ by Lolisha GLT Chaney

In this world there are builders and there are destroyers. Those that beautify, those that destroy, and those that rebuild what has been destroyed. There are people who wound and there are people who heal. There are people who sell drugs, and there are people who help you get off drugs. There are people who bring blight to an area, and there are those who bring blessing.

This world is a beautiful place full of people who make restoration their business. They jump in and lend a lifesaving hand. They clean what is dirty, heal what is broken, and save what is dying.

This is why there is no need to ever be without hope. In any given area of your life, for every negative there exists the positive equivalent. If you have experienced toxic relationships, know that healthy people exist and are in the atmosphere to bring about a reversed condition. Sometimes we have to allow ourselves to see the damage in order to be receptive to repair.  There is no road of denial that leads to remedy, no current of deception that draws one to the safe shores of truth. This truth is – the destroyers never win. There is a cleanup crew ready to plant new trees in place of the old forest that burned down and paint over the graffiti left by vandals.  There is even providence hidden in the fire that erased the forest.  Certain trees depend on fire to provide what is needed for germination, and some animals thrive on the vegetation that grows from what was burned.  In that same manner, destruction clears the path to a glorified reconstruction. 

As loss makes room for the replacement of a better and brighter thing, so does an experience with a destroyer open one’s heart to the beauty of one who has come to restore.

Akeru – When someone leaves, akeru refers to the empty space that is created, the opening in which a new beginning can take place.  It means to begin and to end – part of one never-ending cycle of renewal and healing.  

~ Susan Anderson, The Journey from Abandonment to Healing

About the Author

Lolisha Author BioLolisha GLT Chaney is a freelance writer and inspirational speaker from the San Francisco Bay Area, CA.  As a depression survivor, she draws upon the wealth of knowledge gained from her journey to emotional wholeness.  Lolisha has accepted the call to a higher lifestyle with a focus on helping others by telling her story with refreshing candor that resonates with the human experience.  This work is used to inspire others to remodel their lives from the inside-out; getting life together, one thought at a time. 

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Lolisha Glt Chaney says March 11, 2018

Catherine, in addition to what our beloved Kim has said, I say this: accept that reality. In this world, there are destroyers (and those who follow them). But just like my article illustrates, they are but a piece of the mosaic. Focus on the builders. Focus on those who have come to repair. Follow the healing heart 💖

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Lolisha Glt Chaney says March 11, 2018

Davina, I too am glad for this reminder. There is always hope. Hold on to that 💖

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Lolisha Glt Chaney says March 11, 2018

Catherine, in addition to what our belived Kim has said, I say this: accept that reality. In this world, there are destroyers (and those who follow them). But just like my article illustrates, they are but a piece of the mosaic. Focus on the builders. Focus on those who have come to repair. Follow healing heart 💖

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Lolisha Glt Chaney says March 11, 2018

There is hope Lori. If you hold on to anything in this life, hold on to that hope 💖

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You Have Options - Let Me Reach with Kim Saeed says November 10, 2017

[…]  Value is always in demand. When you know this, the begging stops, the crawling ceases, and the crumbs blow away. When you embody this, you understand that anything that does not honor you is signaling that it […]

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Davina says September 21, 2016

Thank you for this post. It reminds me that there is still hope after the very painful experience.

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Lori says September 20, 2016

Hello, I am so grateful that I found you. You have helped me more that you know with all the information that you email and I have purchased. What I love is you can relate to me. You have been there. When I found out my ex was narcissistic and I did research it was from the narcissist point of view not their victim.
I finally know the true after all these year and I again am so grateful for what you post.

Thank you

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    Kim Saeed says September 22, 2016

    Thank you for your kind praise, Lori. I’m very glad to know my site has given you hope and encouragement. I hope you continue to find those things here 🙂

    Kim
    XoXo

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Catherine says September 20, 2016

But how do you stop the destroyers from destroying when they continue to spin “growth” on those who are unenlightened and continue to follow the destroyer? This is my most fierce battle.

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    Kim Saeed says September 20, 2016

    Hi Catherine,

    You can’t really stop them, nor try to. It’s a waste of energy, time, and your health.

    The best thing to do is leave the situation as best you can, totally if possible, and begin your healing journey where you will meet people who will uplift you and you,in turn, can uplift others.

    Kim

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