When Mr. Nice Guy Turns Into a Stalker

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~ By Jade Joddle ~

Warning – Trigger Alert!

The Borderline Traits Male in Psychosis

Have you ever been in a relationship with or dated a guy who, at first seemed to be perfectly reasonable and normal, but then out of nowhere turned into a scary stalker?

You may have been dating a guy with borderline traits who, due to his insecurity in love, entered an abandonment-triggered psychosis in which he lost control of his actions.

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The term ‘Borderline Traits Male In Psychosis’ is my own for describing the kind of guy who is, generally speaking, a good guy except when his scary, stalkerish side emerges in a dating or relationship situation. He wants to love and be loved, but yet, he is so needy that it works against him. He comes on too strong and intense, which makes women run from him. It’s a vicious cycle: his desperation pushes women away, which then triggers a ‘stalkerish psychosis’ in him.

When this psychosis has him under its control, he will do anything, no matter if it is humiliating or even illegal, to get your attention. This happens because while in the grip of psychosis, he has completely lost any sense of self-restraint. If you have been on the receiving end of this possessive and obsessional stalking, you will know that it is very scary indeed.

If you are involved with a borderline traits male who switches into psychosis when his fear of abandonment is triggered, at some point you will likely find the need to take drastic action to get him to respect your boundaries and leave you alone. You may even be surprised by the amount of drama he creates when he becomes aware that you do not want to see him again.

To offer an example – you may have socialized with him or dated him a couple of times (during which you may or may not have been intimate). However, at some point alarm bells began to ring for you and you decided that you didn’t want to see him again. When he became aware of your loss of interest, unbeknownst to you, he was consumed by psychotic impulses. It was at this point that he stalked you or became aggressive, even violent.

The Warning Signs Are Always There

The psychotic male borderline is not able to hide his possessive and needy nature. While he may have good qualities to his character, he also has a dangerous and unpredictable switch within him.

One minute he may be Mr. Nice Guy who wants to do everything for you, then the next minute he blows up into a jealous rage over something imagined or very small. More than this, he is particularly dangerous because he has no control over his emotional outbursts. Even if he promises you it won’t happen again, he is not in control of this psychotic behavior and, therefore, is virtually unable to keep this promise.

The fact is, if you are involved with a borderline traits ‘psycho’, his fears of abandonment may be triggered at any moment. To be in a relationship with such a guy is like waiting for a ticking time bomb to go off.

Advice: Psychotic male borderlines are not able to control their violent outbursts. If you have seen him switch once, this is a major red flag that this man is not safe.

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Need Help Please says July 28, 2015


I’ve spent 1 year of my life with this kind of man (distance relationship, thanks God I never saw him). As you told it, he became mad when he understood I didn’t want to see him anymore. He stalked me for months, until I “disappeared” from the Internet.

I’m still so scared of him that I didn’t date since. I guess he still tries to find me on my friends social medias so I don’t want him to know if I’m into a new relationship, I’ m really scared of his reaction. Thanks God, he’s been in a new relationship for a year. But a friend of me just told me he deleted is Facebook page, which probably means he’s not in the relationship anymore and is preparing something.

I’d like to live a normal life again and not being scared of living with a new man, without having to fear my ex. Do you think I’m safe ?

Thank you

sola says May 17, 2015

yes i had that kind of MR. nice guy- who ended up stalking all my mails, even mails of 10 years ago and feeling jealous of every single person who was my friend. too much possessive. want me in grip 24 hours……..it was a hell nightmare

    Anonymous says May 17, 2015

    I just broke up with one of those. I didn’t even know there was a term for people like him. But every post and comment describes him. It truly is creepy. I’m stunned I tolerated his behavior for 3 years….

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