This article was published on the Internet several years ago and was originally written to help identify “Losers” in relationships. The e-mail feedback Dr. Carver received on the article was tremendous. It’s clear the article is a way of identifying not only “losers” but controlling, abusive, and manipulating individuals. It’s also obvious these warning signs are not only found in dating relationships – but also in spouses, parents, friends, and relatives. There are more victims in the environment of the Loser than his or her romantic partner.