A recent study found that the average relationship lasts around two years. Being in a relationship with a person who is manipulative and narcissistic can be absolutely exhausting. While it may take a while to get out of one of these relationships, you will eventually become strong enough to end it. In order to get back on track after a bad breakup, you have to find ways to take your mind off of the past.
If all you do is sit around dwelling on what could have been, you will never build a new life. Are you trying to get your life back on track following a bad breakup? If so, check out the great tips below.
Taking a Social Media Break Is a Good Idea
Using social media is something most American adults do on a daily basis. While social media websites like Facebook are a great tool to use when trying to connect with friends and family members, it can also be a platform for drama following a bad breakup. Getting on social media and arguing with your ex is a horrible idea. This is why you should seriously think about taking a break from social media for a while.
After being involved in a particularly toxic relationship, you need to focus on rebuilding your sense of self. Social media may present you with temptations like looking at what your ex is up to. This may stunt your personal growth and healing, which is why you need to exercise some self-control and stay off of social media.
Put Your Anger and Frustration to Good Use
After ending an abusive relationship, it is perfectly normal to feel angry about things in your past. Instead of allowing this anger and frustration to rule your life, you need to find ways to get rid of it. If you are looking for a constructive way to get rid of anger and frustration, then going to a local gym (or exercising at home) is a great idea. Working out is a good way to get rid of nervous energy and to get fit at the same time.
Your main focus should be on building a better future following your breakup. Getting fit is an integral part of rebuilding your body and mind after years of abuse.
Stay Connected to Your Support System to Avoid Gaslighting
Narcissists do everything they can to isolate you and cut off your support system.
You can guarantee a narcissist will use this to their advantage to further isolate, brainwash, and gaslight you.
As you distance yourself from the narcissist, use that time to reconnect with friends and family or form new (healthy) connections with people you trust.
Don’t downplay the situation at home or make excuses for the narcissist.
You need these connections as a support system. They’re vital for fending off gaslighting and validating the abuse. Plus, they’ll be there for you on the other side when this is all said and done.
How to Get Help
If you believe you’re experiencing narcissistic abuse, you don’t have to tolerate it. Consider whether or not the relationship is doing you more harm than good.
Don’t blame yourself. A person’s choice to be abusive isn’t because of anything you’re doing or not doing. You’re not the cause for their behavior, no matter what they say.
Taking care of yourself is the biggest priority if you’re trying to get back on track after a bad breakup.
Here are some helpful tools:
The Beginner’s Healing Toolkit is a free resource that includes everything you need to get started on healing your life after narcissistic abuse.
The Essential Break Free Bootcamp – Explore techniques derived from behavioral therapy (vetted by the psychological and neuro-psychological communities) to finally heal your life.
Clarity Sessions – For help analyzing a relationship and gaining clarity so you can stop blaming yourself, stop wasting time, and move forward in the direction that’s right for you!
The Bottom Line
Everyone has the innate capacity to heal themselves. But, it’s likely you will need external support to heal the traumas that get in the way of your ability to tune into this gift.⠀Helpful tools and resources can assist you in developing effective ways to break free from narcissistic abuse.