One question I see floating around on the internet is, “I am on ABC dating site and this guy or gal I just connected with is asking for a full-length body shot. What should I do? I don’t want to come across as a prude. Should I go ahead and send them additional, full frontal photos of myself?
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In this era of online dating, it’s important to prepare yourself in a way that helps you avoid manipulators, scammers, schemers, and narcissists. As such, the one thing you SHOULD be doing is coming across as a prude. Here’s why…
Generally speaking, there are two main red flags waving when someone you have met online is asking you for a full-length body shot.
1 – It’s an indicator that they have absolutely no interest in your personality or you as a human being
Anyone on the dating sites who asks for a full body shot objectifies people and is forming an opinion about you in the same way they would when scouring the store shelves for a pack of gum.
This is not the request of a high-caliber individual, regardless of what their profile might suggest.
Here’s the truth… even the most degenerate, useless, and pathetic person can intuitively feel when a dating prospect is showing up with low confidence and is a little too happy to go along with things just to appear agreeable.
They can sense it from the words you use in your profile and your actions, like sending photos when you already have some on your profile.
People who want full body shots also tend to watch a lot of pornography and they will compare you to the people they’re looking at on porn sites.
Even if it’s someone you’ve been dating a few months that you met online, don’t fall into a false sense of security and send them additional or risqué photos of yourself. Why?
Because this is what often happens…when the relationship sours, they may threaten to set up fake social media profiles of you and post your intimate photos.
Sadly, this isn’t uncommon and, in some cases, it becomes a harsh reality. They might even share these pictures with your friends or colleagues, making your personal life public in an uncomfortable way.
It’s important to know that you’re not alone in facing such situations. It’s disheartening that some people engage in this behavior, asking for full-body photos from various people online. However, it’s crucial to understand that their request for such pictures doesn’t necessarily mean they’re genuinely interested in you or looking for a meaningful, long-term relationship.
If someone truly wants to get to know you, that’s what dates are for—moments where you can connect on a deeper level. A respectful approach involves mutual understanding and shared experiences rather than asking for personal photos.
Also, pay attention to patterns in your interactions. While coffee dates can be nice, if they always stay casual and never go beyond that, it might raise some concerns. This could mean the person is either managing multiple plans and can’t meet at night, or they might only be interested in a casual connection rather than a meaningful relationship.
Let’s aim to be careful and kind in our interactions, building connections based on mutual respect and genuine interest instead of resorting to hurtful actions or engaging in surface-level encounters.
2 -Sending someone a full body shot is a REALLY personal thing, even if you’re wearing clothes
Narcissists and other manipulators may ask for full body shots as a way to test if you’re willing to share something personal when you barely know them.
Confident individuals with healthy boundaries usually reject these requests instead of agreeing to send personal photos to someone they’ve just met.
While sending a full-length photo might seem harmless from your perspective, predators online specifically target nice and agreeable people. Narcissists make this request to gauge your boundaries, interpreting your compliance as eagerness for approval and giving them the green light to pursue you as a source of narcissistic supply.
If you already have full-length photos online, it’s not necessary to take them down, but ensure they’re classy and current. For instance, that bikini photo from the Bahamas might not be the best choice for an online dating site, as predators often seek such images.
If someone on your profile requests more full-body photos, take it as a signal to delete and block them. Even if you feel a genuine connection online, requesting a full body shot, especially if you haven’t met in person, is a red flag for potential deception. Don’t fall into the fantasy that sharing these photos will lead to a happily-ever-after scenario – real life doesn’t unfold the way you might imagine.
So, should you send full-body shots to someone online? Unless you’re comfortable with a no-strings-attached hookup, be cautious, as that’s likely the only thing you’ll get from someone who asks for such photos.
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