Peace is the result of retraining your mind to process life as it is, rather than as you think it should be.”  ~ Wayne W. Dyer

What other clients and readers are saying… I am writing to say that I have learnt so much from you in just a few short weeks. What is amazing is many of the examples you talk about totally mirrors my life.  You have shown me what it means to be transparent with myself and how to aspire to live life to the fullest.  I have volumes of self-help books on my shelf but this is first time I feel that I have been helped in a very real and tangible way. – Janet K.


“I’d highly recommend Let Me Reach with Kim Saeed to anyone who has been through a toxic relationship or is recovering from narcissistic abuse as Kim combines her personal experience with research and understanding in a way that victims can easily relate to.
I came across Kim’s website through a thoroughly explained blog post: How you became the other woman. I didn’t have the ability at the time to put things into words in such a way I could explain them to someone else, so not many could understand me, and that isolated me further. My experience with a narcissist was so far-fetched, not only did I feel isolated by what happened to me, but I felt as though no one would understand or believe me – so stumbling across this website helped me find a community I could really identify with and in. Kim not only explained the concept of what happened to me clearly and in a way that I was able to see all sides, but she also made me feel less alone in the process because of her level of understanding.
Kim is a perfect example of someone who has used their experience to educate others and instead of becoming bitter – she got better and then proved it! She responds quickly if you need her and there’s never judgment. She’s remarkable! Kim has enabled me to fully comprehend such a horrible, traumatic experience that I had, is something I’ll always be grateful for.
I consider Kim an expert in narcissistic abuse and I hope this encourages her to go further with her knowledge and education in this field, on a global level. We need it!
Thanks, Kim!”     

~ Sarah Webb / Happiness Weekly


I’m 3 weeks out from mine and Kim’s last session and I’m happy to say I’ve not broken NC, nor do I have the desire to.  Kim helped me understand that my Narc Ex’s hoovering attempts had nothing to do with love, but with control and manipulation.  Understanding that Narcissists cannot experience love helped me detach from the relationship and move forward.  Her suggestions for healing have been very helpful and I feel better every day.  She helped me in ways that my therapist couldn’t… ~ Melody C.

I am so grateful that I found Kim’s site and that she offers coaching!  I had several failed attempts at No Contact and she helped me to finally maintain it long enough to get rid of my abusive Ex.  She really stuck with me during those first few weeks when all I wanted to do was let him back in.  Kim knows what it’s like and I felt supported like never before.  She never judged me when I repeatedly had melt-downs in the middle of our sessions.  It’s so liberating to work with someone who knows exactly what this type of abuse feels like. ~ Casey B.


Thank you, Kim, for helping me detach from my Narcissistic fiance.  She never made me feel loved or validated, and now I know why.  She played the damsel in distress to the hilt, and I fell for it hook, line, and sinker…but never got any acknowledgement.  I feel so free now in knowing that nothing I ever would have done would have mattered to her.  She’s a heartless succubus, and I see that now, thanks to our sessions.  I also have my confidence back.  You have changed my whole outlook on life and relationships. ~ David S.

I just need to say thank you to Kim. I Have come so far in 3 months. I would never have made it this far without your one to one coaching. Kim could even tell me what my narc would do before it happened. Kim knows more about Narcissistic Abuse than anyone else I know… ~Tom

“I’ve been to several therapists, but none made me feel validated like talking with Kim. She understands me on a level that none of my therapists could. I do like my current therapist who helps me with EMDR, but working with Kim is healing for my soul. I finally understand everything that happened to me. I believe Kim has saved my life ~ literally. I always felt I was moments away from a heart attack, but now I feel soothed. Thank you, Kim” ~ Ramona P.

I was a little hesitant to work with someone over the phone to go No Contact, but Kim helped me every step of the way.  She even followed up with me when I went MIA for a couple of weeks to see how I was doing.  If it hadn’t been for Kim checking in with me and understanding what it’s like, I’d probably still be with the Narc.  With Kim’s help, I finally got the courage to get my own apartment and go No Contact.  She was just what I needed to finally cross over to the other side.  I’ve been NC for two months now and I’m not looking back.  (Kim, I’ve been using the oils, doing the meditations, and have had a few reiki massages.  They really work!!!!!!) ~ Sandra R.

“I probably wouldn’t be here to write this if not for Kim’s guidance to get away from the Narc.  Between her coaching and program which I discovered on Kim’s site, I have broken the bad patterns I always fell into in all of my relationships.  The last one was a doozie and working with Kim was going to be my last try before doing something I might have been sorry for.  There were some tough times as we worked through my addiction to the Narc, but she stayed with me, even when I became a little difficult.  Thank you Kim.  You don’t realize how thankful I am.  You saved my life”. ~ Carlotta A.

“Kim not only stayed with me while I maintained No Contact, she helped me see how the wounds I’ve carried around since childhood were the reason I kept falling into the same kinds of relationships with people who took advantage of my kindness and empathy.  I no longer feel the need to fix other peoples’ problems, nor do I feel responsible for what happens to them.  I’ve finally opened up to my true self and I feel like a teenager with my whole life ahead of me.” ~ Stacy K.

“I found Kim’s site through a Google search and I truly believe I was led here by a higher power.  Her site is full of raw, applicable insight that I haven’t been able to find elsewhere.  I finally took the plunge and went No Contact with her help.  All areas of my life have improved since I’m no longer with my abusive wife, and Kim has turned me onto several healing strategies that have greatly improved my self-esteem and sense of peace.  Thank you.” – Brad B.

Kim – You have helped to bring clarity to a situation that was incredibly painful and confusing, for so many years. All I can say is thank you for saving my life. Literally. Each day gets a tiny bit easier, but with your website, I am learning so much more about the nature of this type of predator. Knowledge is power. Thank You!!!! xoxo ~ Raquel

Let me thank you for the honest and frank blogs about narcissistic abuse. I’ve been unable to find a therapist who knows about this subject except one and her calendar is booked solid. She did give me your name as a reference, though, and my knowledge and healing has begun. I am so grateful for that. ~ L. A.  

I wanted to reach out to you to tell you how ever thankful I am for your presence in my life! (Like to the moon and back and around the universe a few times!) thank you thank you my set friend! I am finally feeling like all the pain and sorrow will be distant memories and am sort of grateful for it all because it I am seeing to all for what it is (def not true love), but karma, something I needed to learn. Not really confident that he has or will take away the same, but one can hope….even just in a moment. I really am thankful for you dear, the one that helped me wake up -& see the light!!! Feeling hopeful….. ~ Michelle R.

It’s been over six years since I left my ex and I’ve “dated” (I use that term loosely) three narcissists since him. After escaping the last one (about a year ago now) and finding your FB page, I’m starting to slowly enter the “self-love/self-acceptance” arena. It’s a foreign place, but not scary 🙂 Thank you for being here for all of us, many of whom have never been taught or experienced self-worth of any kind. Your movement is life changing for many people. Myself included. Thank you, Kim. ~ K. D., 

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Pinky says April 23, 2020

Hi, I was subject to a blunt discard, going from ‘completely happy’ to leaving what seemed overnight.
I have been doing everything advised and it’s working well. I’ve even very gently started seeing someone new with my red flag alerts on!
My ex (as predicted) is making new social media accounts, and today he managed to get a text through to me using my email via iMessage, saying he just needed space and it’s a shame I couldn’t give him that. I know it’s designed to get under my skin, and I annoy myself that it does.
Each new thing that comes through gets blocked straight away but I still find it emotional and distracting. I know it’s been sent to get that contact going again, and to get in my head , so My question is how long would I expect to be so reactive to his actions?
I haven’t responded to anything and he has no idea I’ve seen anything, which I’m pleased about but I’d really like to be able to see his actions as the pathetic manipulations that they are. Much love to all x

Zeydy says March 24, 2020

Hello Kim,

I don’t know how i discovered your videos. They are so informative, I left my husband 5 months ago , after several attempts of improve our marriage and relationship. This is my third time that i move out (sounds crazy and it is crazy) I am a Jesus believer and i thought our marriage could be different and he could change, but i didn’t happened it got to the point that he grabbed my 16 years old boy (not his) and said it did not happened. I moved out in November a month later he had a new supply ( she is not new, he had a relationship the second time i left him, he brought her to our house and introduced her to my step kids, they were upset). After things got more complicated with my son i decided to leave back in October. He is being doing smear campaign with family members and friends. We are in our divorce process, but i am still in trauma bond, he has created 12 different email accounts to reach out to me. I went no contact but now i feel that i wan to talk to him, check how he is doing, this is insane. I really confused with all this drama and I dont know how to handle this.

Anonymous says May 15, 2019

I honestly wish that I had the money because you really messed me up I don’t trust anybody I stay to myself I’m scared to go outside I’m scared he’s coming emotionally and physically abusive… I did not realize the damage that he had caused. To me . I am scared of the world. I don’t know how to move forward.

Zoe says January 25, 2019

Hi Kim, After 10 years of living with an alcoholic husband with NPD , I finally escaped ! This is the third attempt to leave him. It has been 40 days now. I can’t go No Contact as we own a business together and it’s my only source of income. Your videos are so informative for women like me who are hesitant to accept the fact that the husband and partner in life follows a narcissistic pattern. Mine is just bang on as you describe them in your videos. The only difference that I find is when I reminded him of one of many times of emotional abuse which hurt me to my core and reminded him that right after abuse took place, he went back to dinner table and finished his dinner so calm as if nothing had just happened,… that really scared him. He kept saying ” No, it is impossible! No, I am not that person ” .

Michelle Muff says September 2, 2018

I am hesitant to purchase your program given the webinar I listened to and you mentioned reincarnation and other statements such as: “the universe telling you.” etc. I am a Christian and have found I am not a good fit where the Lord Jesus is not honored as the only way. I believe most of your content is very good and I know I need healing but cannot find one with your good content that is Christian. I know I could filter it out statements that do not fit my Christian belief, but I tried another program and the other women and the leaders found my belief in Jesus offensive. I am worried about the meditations that would open myself up to a subconscious belief that is not Christian orientated.

Also, I don’t know which program to purchase? I am post-divorce from my 2nd abusive marriage two years ago. I can not go “no contact” as we have a child together and communicate with our family wizard which causes me PTSD symptoms as he continues to abuse me and manipulate the parenting schedules and other rules via email.

I know you are busy but I thought I’d ask and see what you think about these two issues.

Thank you for your time.

Jill says April 13, 2018

Kim, thank you for all of the videos, I’ve watched 4 so far about hovering to boundaries / deal breakers. I’m turning 62 and have been susceptible to emotional abuse, spiritual, sexual abuse, my whole life, from experiencing emotional and physical abuse as a child. Experienced 24 years of emotional abuse, spiritual abuse in a 24 year marriage, never recovered. Was alone for 15 years then endured 21/2 hellish years with another narcissist. I am finally no contact. Realizing what I’ve let myself go through my whole life. Now on the path of self care, self love, self protection for the first time in my life. Thank you for all the work you have done and are doing. You are saving lives. Jill

    Kim Saeed says April 16, 2018

    Hi Jill,

    I’m very glad to know you are finally connecting with yourself and giving yourself the love and attention you deserve. I wish you all the best as you shift into higher levels of healing.

    Kim XoXo

Jennafer says February 28, 2018

I’m looking for support group so I can learn how to move on from being in a 10 year narsasitic relationship so I can ultimatly help my teeanage daughter because her dad is the abuser and continues to affect her and my life very negativly. Please need assistance ASAP!

    Kim Saeed says March 3, 2018

    Hi Jennafer,

    The best option I can suggest is to join a program designed especially for the areas you described. I offer such a program, which you can find here: The Essential Break Free Bootcamp. Among many things, it offers a private group which has been instrumental in helping other people like you to escape toxic relationships.

    But whether you join my program or another one, I wouldn’t try to do it alone…you’ll need support along the way; support from people who have been in your shoes.

    Kim XoXo

Crystal Brown says November 3, 2017

And i was on eleven pills a day for depression anxiety and mood swinges counciling and they could never council me i talked to the and i talked my way threw it sometimes it just helps yo have someone yo listen and just that extra opinion im getting ready to try to motivate to go to school for awakening and healing natural medicine i have been awakened since sept 6th 2017 im excited about it all so ready to fix the world been trying all my life ooooppppps so sorry babbling on and on you all have a blessed and joyous morning xx love

Kim Saeed says December 29, 2015

Hi CW. Thanks for stopping by! Two of my personal favorites are “Dance of the Wounded Souls” by Robert Burney and “The Mastery of Love” by Don Miguel Ruiz. 🙂

Cathy says November 22, 2015

Is there hope even if you’ve been together for 32 years? I moved out 2 weeks ago and its all I can do to not go back, I want my family, even if it means enduring the physical, emotional and sexual abuse.

    Kim Saeed says November 23, 2015

    Cathy, I know it feels that way now, but enduring abuse is no way to live. In fact, many people who share your sentiments often become so traumatized, they lose everything – including their home and kids. I would recommend getting a counselor if you haven’t already and reading “The Journey from Abandonment to Healing” by Susan Anderson: http://astore.amazon.com/lemere-20/detail/0425273539

    Believe me, if you go back, you will only regret it. Keeping my fingers crossed for you!

Michael says July 25, 2015

Kim, Thanks so much for your incredible insight and guidance. Great work.

    Kim Saeed says July 26, 2015

    Thanks, Michael! 🙂

Anonymous says May 27, 2015

Wasnt sure which link leads to info regarding your email coaching, but if I could be provided with that information, it would be greatly appreciated. I am very interested. Thank you.

    Kim Saeed says May 31, 2015

    Hi Anon! Thank you for your inquiry. I recently stopped offering email coaching because it wasn’t personal and involved enough to help clients implement and maintain No Contact. I do still offer other options if you’re interested. You can find out more by clicking on this link: http://letmereach.com/no-contact-coaching-and-recovery-coaching/

    Thanks again 🙂

Anonymous says December 23, 2014

I met my cerebral narc 7 years ago and I have spent the last 9 months freeing myself from his demonic vice. Finding your website has given me the knowledge, courage and tools to break free. I never imagined someone could say and do things to someone they love. I still struggle with the concept that someone is capable of such mind games with selfish motives to a someone they care about. He came into my life when I was at a very low point, was able to wither into my weaknesses, exploit them, use words to spin to rip open my wounds until I tried to end it all.

To completely heal and become better than we were when we met our narc, requires the holistic approach you outline. Meditation, education, healing, energy healers, therapy, understanding the empath that I am, how to do inner child work, friends, graditude and going no contact are the keys to letting us reach our greatest potential.

I still use your tools most everyday and some days several times a day. Now I have more than glimmers of the person I was, I have a number of days where I am back but better, stronger, wiser, more beautiful, graceful, courageous and kind. There are days like the last few that I fight the negative words and feelings of life but my thoughts are no longer consumed with him and I no longer want, desire him or love him.

Your single voice has reach so many people and changed lives. May your words, experience, knowledge and hope continue to support, encourage, educate and inspire.


Karen deNevers says November 20, 2014

I cannot tell you how finding this website has altered my life.. seemingly in one day. I had been with my husband for close to 20 years and.. the narcissistic abuse became quite extreme through our marriage. The abuse happened on a number of different levels.. our children were made witness to a great deal of it.. and his personality could be defined as the classic narcissist. I am grateful for our recent separation, I am grateful for my new peaceful home.. and I am certainly grateful for a future without the toxic environment I was in for so long. My children will heal.. and I will move on.. but I simply wanted to thank you for your found website. I have a great deal support in the dozens upon dozens of people that have circled their wagons and continue to love me and my children through this time. I thank you for this tool.. I send heartfelt thanks to the survivors that have gone before me.. the trailblazers, that have made answers and support possible.

Portia Gray says July 22, 2014

I did better with my ex bf of 12 yrs; I kicked him out 15-20 Times after he started negative behaviors – cheating, the lies, cursing, insults, nit-picking, complaining, whining, sullen, angry and etc. He was re-habbing his house. He always crawled back to you. I Tld him that I do not accept his behaviors. He paid for our trips and bought me things ( guilt gifts). I grew weary of him and planned steps to get rid of him. I knew he found an ugly woman who had money from working. One Sunday morning, I said to him, ” i want you to move out and go back living in your home. He was so calm and getting his clothes & things out of my house. I sat and watched him.

The next morning, the ex sent me a scathing cursive texts starting at 7 am before he went to work. 6 months later, he secured the ugly woman to live in his house; i refused to live in house house. I read blogs about narcarssist men & women. I thought my ex had explosive disorder. I know more bout the truths about him from Other ppl. I closed the door on him – blocked his texts, avoid any places that he shows up with his new gf supply, ( I have friends text me to warn me so I’m not there), and his calls concerning his health or etc – not to call us. It has been a year and half DUMPING HIM. He realized I knew more truth bout him. Now I know who narcissists are and how they operate. The ex has told ppl tht I was crazy woman and etc. Last note, narc ex did verbally threaten to slaps while reclining on couch. I took off my earrings, balled up long hair on a knot, had my fists balled in a boxer’s stance, and went in his face saying “come on and slap me, I take ur ass to jail” . He recoiled and was afraid of me. I walked backwards saying to him ” I knew you are saying words and I’m not afraid of you “. I am 5′ 2″ tall and he’s 5’10” . He knows I will never welcome back in my life in future because I am in control of who I am.

    Kim Saeed says July 22, 2014

    Portia, your last sentence says it all. Glad you stood up for yourself.

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